Watching How You Get Into Trouble
1. Visualize and allow yourself to feel a time when you were filled with hatred or lust.
2. Does it not seem that the hated or desired person or thing is extremely substantial, very concrete?
3. Is there a conflict between appearance and reality? Notice how you:
First perceive the object;
Then determine if the object is good or bad;
Then conclude that the object’s goodness or badness exists inherently in the object;
Then generate lust or hatred according to whether the object’s goodness or badness has been exaggerated.
A forgotten musical innuendo
"Do you want to be on top or bottom?"
How To Reflect On Change
Examine your feelings to see who is being held closely and who is being considered at a distance. Investigate the matter this way:
You naturally feel close to your friend; regarding your enemy, you feel not only distant but sometimes anger or irritation; you feel nothing for a neutral person. However, it is by no means certain that a friend, an enemy, or a neutral person will at all times either help, harm, or do neither. When you are generating negative thoughts, and negative feelings such as hatred or anger, even a friend is seen as an enemy, and when negative thoughts toward an enemy disappear, the enemy becomes a friend.
By reflecting in these ways, you can loosen the hold that afflictive emotions like anger and hatred have on you."